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Dangerous abuses, control of devotees

From: https://web-beta.archive.org/web/20151018065328/http://www.dharma-sangha.com/news/2015/04/02/dangerous-abuses-control-of-devotees

 

by This website | Apr 02, 2015

 

Mrs Andrea Good is involved in one of the most dangerous aspects of sects, the mental and psychological abuse over a group by raising pseudo precepts, which she herself breaks on a daily basis, but feels empowered to enforce on others.

 

Dangerous abuses, control over devotees

Mrs Andrea Good is involved in one of the most dangerous aspects of sects, the mental and psychological abuse over a group by raising pseudo precepts, which she herself breaks on a daily basis, but feels empowered to enforce on others. She has since the earliest times with this community placed herself above everyone else, and playing a very dangerous game of judge, jury and executioner with a good number of members of the community. Her actions amount to criminal deeds, particularly when these manipulate, distort, and affect the capacity of people to discern right from wrong, when involved in mind games and manipulations by someone who sells herself as the co-guru.

The following text written by Mrs Andrea Good illustrates both her mindset, but also the extent to which she goes in justifying, the detention of adults, the theft of their belonging as the confiscation of a toy, the belittling of human dignity through this public sermon of humiliation of the victims.

There is not the slightest trace of compassion in her actions, just an extremely dangerous deviant manipulation that creates drastic psychological and emotional impact on people in the community. Here is the text she writes  on 7th Dec 2012 in the public part of Google Group, under the title :

“Insight on the Glass Room”:

“Those of you in contact with Marici could remind her of this fact, as she is breaking “samaya” which is her agreement with the Guru in the form of the 11 precepts. It would be very helpful for her to recognize that she is “angry.”

She may go through many words to avoid admitting it. Each time she breaks “Samaya” she needs to go through the process of “repair” which is to openly show remorse for such a serious thing as breaking “Samaya” and this needs to become a habit with her. It needs to be called every time she breaks it….thousands of times if necessary.

Now, as to this post and its usefulness, here is another thing that we in the Sangha can concentrate on. We can, out of a sense of duty, when dealing with other Sangha members, tend to be heavy-handed. We learn these reactions in Society especially when bringing up a family, but it can lack the quality of “just love and trust that it will work out.”

And when it comes to absorbing harmful energy, (one knows when this happens as defilements can arise and cause us suffering when we are working with someone else, we unwittingly take on their karma and process) that the glass case with the smoker in it is a wonderful way to deal compassionately with this person and not inhale their smoke!

We can radiate love on all sentient beings. We can also imagine keeping such people who are processing in a glass room or just a “containment bubble” to keep their process in a defined boundary that does not spread harmful energy.

LoveTruthJoy”

 

Further Insight on the Glass Room

“When in the Sangha, it is vital that all speech is peaceful, truthful, and nurturing (constructive).

When allegations are made, the person making the allegation needs to understand that it is a very, very serious thing for that person and the Sangha, and that person needs to take responsibility for their speech.

Sarcasm and black humor is unwarranted under any condition. And when making a grave accusation, such sarcasm and black humor is simply a form of untruthfulness. Here are the basic precepts that constitute this person’s failure to upkeep samaya with the Guru.

Precept 3. Forsake lying, allegations, counter-allegations, belittling and spreading falsehood through baseless gossip.

Furthermore, the loss of this person’s machinery was a direct result of breaking the precepts.

If you find your child/shishya using certain technology to do something which is harmful to self and others, the Parent/Guru (under whose care she placed herself by her own will) removes the object. It is odd for the child/shishya to request the return of the machinery or the purchase of new ones so that she may do the same thing again.

We have been covering Attachment.

Negativity we have also covered.

Negative speech is the main part of Negativity, as negativity is expressed through speech. To avoid negative speech in others, especially in the Sangha it is good to remind them of the Aim.

If the habit persists, there is only one way:

Avoid them altogether.

You know in your heart what feels comfortable and true. If anyone makes you feel complicated and persists to do so, then they are not the Path.

All that is not the Path is best shunned…not read, not thought, not entertained. Avoided altogether.

Guru is here. He will take care of it. Do you Trust Guru?

If the answer is yes, stay.

If the answer is no, then it is time to find your own path and this Google Group is not for you.

Precept 4. Forsaking philosophies or ways that make boundaries of divisiveness and difference of opinion, take up the Satya Marga – The Perfect Path.

When we sympathize with such a person who is overcome by the need to express negativity, this sympathy is not compassion. We prolong that person’s pain by endorsing their personal drama and lead them to avoid contemplating the lessons in karma.

LoveTruthJoy”

 

Further Insight on the Glass Room continued

“Yes, and there was something else that happened that made this post very pertinent in another way, and it can help all of us.

Often we tend to easily absorb harmful energy from other people’s “process,” which is why certain members of the Sangha need to be “banned” because it is like someone in the family smoking in the living room. When someone is processing their deeply felt anger and negativity, they should not be positioned to harm other family members.

So, if they continue and show no remorse for their behavior, they cannot be in the family.

It doesn’t matter what the “content” is. That is the personal drama and karma. That person needs to take responsibility for the behavior that they are displaying in this very moment.

Furthermore we can take on that karma as the result is the most grave unwholesome action within the Dharma: separation within the Sangha.

We should avoid taking the karma of others until we have dissipated our own. A pure being such as a True Guru is capable of taking on the Karma of others, but it is also His choice in what way he will accomplish it. His choice is Pure Dharma.

LoveTruthJoy”

 

Conclusion

When Mrs Andrea Good attempts to brainwash people and to tell them who is in the family or who is out, she is breaking herself her own vows. She has no merit, no qualification, no authority, no knowledge that may allow her to be the judge and executioner over other members of the community or outside of the community.

All living beings are in one and the same family, excluding anyone is excluding herself from any practice of compassion. Ms Takacs which is called ‘Marici’ in the writings of Mrs Andrea Good, was detained illegally in 2012 in Halkhoriya. All her belongings were taken/stolen from her, these are the facts, the writings of Mrs Andrea Good are the justification and the distortion of those crimes into a mind game of her own construction.

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Lovetruthjoy and the money trail

From: https://web-beta.archive.org/web/20151018065321/http://www.dharma-sangha.com/news/2015/03/28/lovetruthjoy-and-the-money-trail

by This Websiite | Mar 28, 2015

 

The co-guru Andrea Good, was agitating her devotees in Japan for a long time as how the next step would be the creation of a Japanese Sangha. She was pushing for that process for a while, when she started taking the steps for registering such an organization in Japan.

 

lovetruthjoy through her own writing

First a bit of context. The co-guru Andrea Good, was agitating her devotees in Japan for a long time as how the next step would be the creation of a Japanese Sangha. She was pushing for that process for a while, when she started taking the steps for registering such an organization in Japan. Pragya even went to Japan for that occasion and was handled like a servant by Madame the Co-guru. Andrea Good was trying to get money in any way shape or form she could. From Kim the up till now and maybe no longer President of BSDS she asked for money for the stay of Pragya, from her local devotees she was asking for money to pay for ‘her volunteer work’ as translator of one or two A4 pages of text, mostly done by actual Nepali (Rahul, Pragya etc…), but for which she needed the credit, and more than anything else the money. Om money padme hmmmm.

Throughout all those years I have been interacting (if we can call it like that) with Mrs  Andrea G., each and everyone of her actions visible and the less visible ones through others, were control, money, lies, self-delusion, and ego trips. She is actually convinced to do the right thing for a higher goal and that as such she is above everyone else. That is usually what is called fanaticism. That is the moment where your faith or what you believe takes over your conscience, moral principles and honesty.

You will see through her own words below in the full copy of her text, how she uses people’s devotion and her position to ask for money. She uses what was meant to be ‘volunteer work’ her donation to the Sangha as she calls it everywhere, to monetize her effort. When confronted with that, she just simply brushes the issue away and says, it ‘was my friends helping me’. Not for a split second does she even envisage that this is an abuse of her position, a deviated way of having others pay for your ‘donation of time’. But as time has shown, for all these years all that she has been doing is clinging to her position, ‘her powers’, perceived and imposed, and to her denials.

While trying to open a Sangha in Japan, she realizes having a legal organization imposes some restrictions in the way you deal with money, with legality, a structure and rules that need to be followed, you have to be able to finance such a structure, you have to have a real backing and support. Kim was insisting that things are done properly. Andrea didn’t like that. So the adventure of opening a Sangha had to be called off, and some explanations needed to be given to all those people waiting for that. This is in full the text Andrea Good writes to her closest following:

[buddhaboy] The situation in Japan

Dear Group,

I would like to give you an update of the situation over here and also make a request.  I’m sure all have been wondering exactly what became of our lives and the Japan Chapter after the return of Manu and Bhante. Our group was a little taken aback when it really came home that forming a Japanese chapter would mean submission of personal documentation both in Nepal and Japan and furthermore the complete formation of a “religious organization”, there being thousands in this country already with not a lot to boast about, but rather more to hide which means that such an organization would likely alienate more than it would welcome. It would also create the need for a lot of funding for office space.  For us, this simply did not “feel” right, nor given our present conditions, are we the most competent people to do this.  So, we decided to form a chapter of BSDS in the heart and to meet together and pick through Japanese translations and learn how to chant Maha Pranidhan. I think the majority of this group will understand our feelings, although this should not be taken in any way to be a separation, because it certainly isn’t.  So we have devoted our body, speech and mind to the sake of all sentient beings, and recognize that Guruji is giving us guidance through the heart.  We are also actively promoting Guruji’s cause among friends and relatives and online in Japan.

I have been struggling for some time also to pay my bills, and Sister Kidwen was extremely supportive, by paying most of Manu and Bhante’s expenses.  I am so grateful for this. My difficulties were somewhat exacerbated by several coinciding problems, the first, you all know occurred with the earthquake, tidal waves, and nuclear situation in Japan, which made most businesses except grocery stores suffer if not stop completely.  My own friends and customers were intimidated by the present situation.  Many came to the shop to discuss their problems and have tea (and I was very grateful for their company) and yet few were inclined to buy anything.  I also tended to retreat because I felt the need to concentrate on translating the Maha Pranidhan, so sometimes I simply hermitized 😉 for a few hours a day, assuming I would get into the swing of business again later.  Things continued in this way when my husband went to hospital where he remains.  I need to commute daily to take care of two apartments and make sure my children on both sides are fed.  Of course I am happy now because I enjoy much better relations with my family, and even feel eventually I will be able to leave this apartment to my increasingly independent son and return to care for my younger daughter and husband.  My husband was able to get leave over the past two days which were national holidays and all four of us were able to be together.  Although now I am twice as busy…and thanks to the help of the shop people who have gently led me back into being a full-fledged aromatherapist for the sake of the shop and my family, things are looking better.  So there are bright sides, and also realities that need to be faced.  One, I am two months behind on my family bills ($3,000).  The extra money that remained in Nepal is there for two purposes, some of that money ($1000) is being reserved to pay for Solar Energy once a decision is made by BSDS, and the remaining ($300) is to pay for extra expenses incurred by Dawa and or Marici who are spending so much time and energy to provide information and guidance to our group.

Given the situation, my husband’s continued hospitalization, and the needs of my family, I have decided not to attend Maha Darshan, but will probably revisit Nepal at a later time. Dawa has been praying very hard for us, my husband’s recovery and in the hope that one day my whole family wishes to go to Nepal with me. That would be wonderful. I certainly believe that this will soon be the case.

So I hope you will forgive me for reaching out to the group again for some support to help my family get back on its feet. I hope that we have been useful in providing the closest translations possible (thanks greatly to Rahul – I hope I will be able to send him something nice, even though he helps only with the sincere wish to understand Guruji.) The translations will continue beyond their publishing for Maha Pranidhan, and indeed beyond all publishing as I’m sure things will just keep popping up!  And, as always, I like to give in return to those who have been kindly helping out.  I still have just a few blessed strings left, but quite a few “The World in One Heart” (chants of the heart sutra from around the world) CDs produced by Imee Ooi, and also the Om Namo Guru Buddha Gyani CDs, so please feel free to ask for them, otherwise I will send you one of each CD, as I also have some stamps left as well to pay for the postage. Since my own paypal can no longer be used to send money to Japan, with kind permission from Sister Kidwen, she will gather any funds sent to me  via her paypal account (kim……@…….and she can forward them

once she returns from Maha Darshan

 

 via the banks to my account in Japan, so please send me your name and address and a memo of the amount via email so I can send you CDs and a string if they are still left over.  Mark the purpose as for World Peace Prayers translation.  

Thank you very much.  Sarva Mangalam Astu.

Maitri,

LTJ D (Andrea Good) 

 

There is nothing to teach others when such a culture of dishonesty, abusive exercise of positions that were meant to be volunteer contribution.

There is no valuable moral stand to show when no one in those management positions has the courage to stop the abuses, when these people are telling everyone what to do and how they explain away crimes like unlawful detention, the confiscation of personal belongings from the women they detained, and ask from people things that they themselves cannot do.