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When a man says he is a guru

 

From: http://web.archive.org/web/20160202170735/http://www.dharma-sangha.com:80/home/page/2#newsdiv

by This website | Jan 15, 2016

 

Someone who lives a real dharma won’t preach about it. They show it in their ‘works’ – that is the way they live their lives every day. If someone is ethical, virtuous, kind, giving, patient, harmonious, has integrity, and lives with a sense of serving others more than themselves, then you can likely trust them.

 

When a man says he is a guru

When a man who says he is a guru threatens or states another man will be extinguished, self-annihilated or any similar outlandish claims. Can he be a guide to anyone?

When a man who says he is a guru uses violence against other men and women, can he be trusted when he talks about compassion or supposed world peace?

When a man who says he is a guru harbors weapons, engages his monks in fights with neighboring villagers, can his teachings be trusted?

When a man who says he is a guru only waves around his supposed attainment as an argument of a supposed authority, does that call for the respect of his fellow men?

When a man who says he is a guru mostly communicates to exclude, to shift blame, or to cancel made promises is he inviting trust and reliance in his words?

When a man who says he is a guru never teaches or explains anything, yet expects from his followers blind obedience, can he expect to be followed?

When a man who says he is a guru physically abuses, usually by telling devotees to assault other devotees, or has a vindictive attitude towards ex-devotees, can he be considered a true guru?

When a man who says he is a guru acts whimsically and emotionally can he be relied upon when talking about the path to overcome those?

When a man who says he is a guru and his chosen ones act like a militia, physically punishing others and severely damaging them would you take those acts of omnipotence with no accountability as a the sign of any enlightenment?

When a man who says he is a guru keeps on focusing on his supposed enlightenment rather than teaching the path leading to it, doesn’t practice what he preaches, demands love and devotion, takes sexual advantage of his followers, gives himself outrageous titles, allows his followers to set up a hierarchy of access, and acts like a paranoid person, can he still pretend to be a guru?

Conclusion

Someone who lives a real dharma won’t preach about it. They show it in their ‘works’ – that is the way they live their lives every day. If someone is ethical, virtuous, kind, giving, patient, harmonious, has integrity, and lives with a sense of serving others more than themselves, then you can likely trust them. Someone who teaches these principles but does not live them – isn’t a real guru.

The organization of an abusive guru is called a cult. It is important to understand that no truly Realized being, no True Guru, is ever abusive, ever. There is no exception to this rule, because abusiveness is a result of narcissism and ego, nothing else, and the primary definition of a true guru is they no longer possess ego.

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We are all responsible

From: https://web-beta.archive.org/web/20151007045803/http://www.dharma-sangha.com/news/2015/04/24/we-are-all-responsible

 

by This website | Apr 24, 2015

 

Those who willingly put aside their own autonomy, their own moral judgement, to obey even a Christ, a Buddha, or a Krishna, do so at risk of losing a great deal more than they can hope to gain.

 

We are all responsible

Doing nothing is akin to condoning unethical behaviour

Mr Ramlal Bomjon, who appeared first in the news as a young boy without much education from Nepal, who left to go meditate in the jungle, has gradually taken on the role and authority that everyone gave him. His meditative skills were masking what he was growing into.

As the Dalai Lama (1999) expressed his own opinion, regarding the value of investigative journalism, welcoming it unlike the treatment given by the aides of Mr Ramlal Bomjon to the journalist in 2012, coming to report on the detention two women:

“I respect and appreciate the media’s interference…. It is appropriate … to have journalists … snooping around and ex-posing wrongdoing where they find it. We need to know when this or that renowned individual hides a very different aspect behind a pleasant exterior.”

In the same line of wisdom Albert Einstein tells us:

“The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it.”

The dream of a Buddha in our life time, and as soon as the nickname “Buddha Boy” hit the headlines of the press, we wanted so much to believe this was it, that the nickname was forged into factual reality by the power of our own desires.

Before showing any merit as a teacher or a guide, his followers made him a personality above all others, treating him like a god, imparting impunity to any of his actions, diverting the guilt towards the victims. For so many want to believe saints and sages have the best interest of everyone in their heart, in their speech, in their mind and through their actions.

We also want to believe that the ‘enlightened beings’ would never twist truth to suit their own desires or goals, and abuse their power to take advantage, be it sexually or otherwise, of their followers.

Of course, disclosures will create a good amount of exasperation among the obedient followers, for whom the “perfection” and infallibility of their leader is not open to questioning. However if truth ever matters, then we need to welcome that the lies and abusive behaviours of the people in position of spiritual authority be laid bare to the rest of the world.

In this circumstance exposing them to the public scrutiny is the only way to get them to stop with the damaging practices.

Conclusion

Those who willingly put aside their own autonomy, their own moral judgement, to obey even a Christ, a Buddha, or a Krishna, do so at risk of losing a great deal more than they can hope to gain.

“Nothing was true of all that she had believed, but the falsest thing of all was what she had mistaken for revealed truth.”
— François Mauriac, Maltaverne